Mommy, Can I tell you a Secret?

More than a week ago,  I took my 3 kids on a date. Nothing fancy, we just walked in the mall for hours and had a late lunch. and ice cream.

While my toddlers were busy carrying their bags and enjoying the walk, Kyle told me: Mommy, can I tell you a secret?

Instantly, I had my full attention on him ready to listen. I thought he would share some old stories and all, but I was surprised. This was something new for me for a child at the age of 10. 

My eldest Ivan, is more of a serious type of son. He would speak and share some stories but He is more into games and techy stuff. He is now a teenager and enjoys to do the same things when he was younger.

Anyway, I did not expect this confession that Kyle shared. The statement popped in and it goes like this...Mommy, I have a crush!

Whoa! I had a blank face, stunned and speechless. Did not even know how to react!

I tried my best to stay compose as God whispered to me...Do not overreact he is still a child and needs guidance. 

I encouraged Kyle to tell me more about it and he did. I saw that there was a relief in his face when he was able to share it with me.

There were smiles and giggles in between his stories and he kept on sharing it with me over lunch. 

I kept on listening and allowed him to share every detail of it.

The following day I spoke to him again about it. I asked how he understood the meaning of crush and he said it is like an inspiration to him. I asked another question again...what did he like about the girl?

I began to wonder while looking at him. How can this boy have a crush at ten? But God made me realized that he is a growing child and the blessing of this is, he feels comfortable in sharing it with me rather than sharing it with others.

He has an easy access to Arnel and I whenever he needs somebody to talk to and share his insights.

Few days passed after his confession, he did not open any conversation anymore about his crush, then I thought he might just felt flattered when the girl told her that she has a crush on him and now he forgot about it. 

After listening to his stories, I made it a point that I was able to remind him about our house rule when it comes to this matter. We also set this to his Kuya Ivan and will apply to his little brothers too.

It is just normal to have an inspiration but they need to graduate and finish their schooling first before they can have a relationship with women that they would eventually like. Our prayer is for the Lord to lead them to godly women that they can serve with and build a godly family.

This was set clear and I praise God that our eldest Ivan was able to attend a Purity Ball in our church.

Purity was explained clearly and we are doing several follow through whenever we have our family devotion. He is wearing his purity ring on his finger until now. He is 19 and remaining to be pure can only be possible by a lot of constant prayer and God's grace.

It is a great experience to have your children speak to you about how they feel and what is currently going on in their heart. But everything will only be possible by building a Christ-like character which requires a lot of grace from the Lord and prayer.

Our children's generation is far from what I have been through before but I praise God that He gave us the opportunity to homeschool them which brought us to a deeper relationship with out children. They have friends with out coop, sunday school and our dgroup family but it is comforting to know that they TRUST us in seeking advise and sharing their thoughts. They depend on us, but  our goal is to lead them to be more dependent to the Lord first and to abide His Words.

" The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom." Proverbs 9:10

Sharing his story over lunch :)

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